The second aspect of Right Action is not taking what isn’t given. In other words, don’t steal. But it’s also so much more than that.  Buddha teaches, “He avoids taking what is not given and abstains from it; what another person possesses…he does not take away with thievish intent.” Even in our actions, our intentions matter. This, of course, is very similar to the commandments not to steal and not to covet your neighbors’ possessions. Right Action asks us to detach from our envy.

Stealing also includes many aspects of dishonesty. Writing bad checks, cheating on our taxes, and having fraudulent business practices all run counter to Right Action. They lack integrity.

While the most obvious form of this aspect is stealing or coveting, it also includes withholding. If we withhold something that should rightfully belong to something, we are also stealing. Instead of taking what isn’t given, we withhold what should be offered. This has a profound justice aspect to it. Of course, then we enter into discussions about what we consider universal human rights. But to take Right Action seriously, we have to ask ourselves if the systems and structures in society prevent or withhold what should rightfully be given, whether that’s affordable insulin, quality free public education, or paid maternity leave. We could also ask ourselves where we withhold love, or approval, or compassion. Maybe those things rightfully belong to more people than we imagine. (And even if they don’t, maybe it’s good Right Action anyway?)

This phrase “don’t take what isn’t given” also speaks to me of entitlement. When we enter into a situation like we own it, or like we control the outcome, we are in a position of grabbing and taking. It also reminds me of all the recent cultural conversation around consent. I’m not sure it’s ever a good idea to waltz into a situation like something is owed to us. It feels like a risky easy next step to move toward objectifying someone to ensure things work out the way we want.

This week, try releasing your hands. Walk through the week gently. Be honest. Don’t take what isn’t freely offered. Try not to demand so much, and maybe lean more toward gratitude.

This post belongs to my series on the Eightfold Path. Read all my posts on Right Action here.